How To Begin Loving Yourself

I am continuing to work on myself and considering life goals and progress over the last year. This last year, I have been reminded on the importance of learning to value yourself. It takes time to work on yourself. After two years of counseling and completing many life goals and accomplishments, I find that I sometimes still struggle and feel overwhelmed as a single parent. I have learned the importance of life purpose, focus, to not react, the importance of boundaries, and have identified behaviors that I deserve in relationships with other people. I made a list of personality traits in August and this has helped me keep myself in check. Many friends and family would say the following to me. Learn to love yourself. How do you do this? I still struggle at times but feel my family is making great gains.

  • Be positive and live a life of purpose. 
  • Give to others without people knowing. 
  • Faith in God will carry you through. You are a light and are protected. 
  • Take actions that do not create shame but honor your body and spirit.
  • Take responsibility of every part of your life.
  • Advocate for yourself. You are deserving.
  • Eliminate anyone who lowers you're energy, and do not be ashamed to do so.
When people treat you bad, stop trying to figure out why. Their actions are a reflection of themselves, not you. You cannot alter your behavior to prevent their abuse. Stop focusing externally. Learn to focus internally.  Remove yourself from negative energy and negative enviornments. When someone treats you wrong, ask yourself the following question. Would you treat this person the same way? If the answer is no, learn that they don't deserve a place in your life. Once we leave toxic environments and abusive relationships, we should not worry about what others think. Release the need to convince others of the truth. You don't have to defend yourself when you have integrity. Live your life and focus on the positives in your life. This question will help you set boundaries. Boundaries will help you learn to love yourself. 










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