The Inner Journey Toward Peace
Over the last few weeks, I have felt an immense need to write and journal my thoughts regarding my inner journey and continuous work to heal and grow toward an improved life pursuing the path of peace. This spring immediately brought about an awareness of "peace" that comes in the midst of a great storm. It was perhaps the worst 2 weeks of my life. After a decade of struggling emotionally to restore relationships with my children walking through a decade of spiritual warfare, I naively believed it was finally over. After all, we had such a peaceful and wonderful Christmas holiday. I could feel my family finally coming together. And then like a thief in the night, the darkness nearly swallowed my family whole. A year previously, my estranged oldest son asked an honest question regarding our youngest son Nolan. Apparently somewhere along the way during the last decade, a very ugly and false idea was placed on his heart that the cause for the divorce was that Nolan was not his full blood brother. Of course this is entirely false. The entire 10 years of custody battle, never was this brought up in hearings, court documents, etc. I was very shocked and suddenly it all started to make sense. Zeke's anger toward me, refusal to visit, the parent alienation just continued. Circle a full year later, our relationship is on the up and up, things are better, and in the middle of the night, I get a phone call. Apparently, Zeke was in another altercation with the police, he was calling for me in pain, and was committed to a psych ward for evaluation. His stepmom and dad immediately blocked all access. I had posted a photo of our family, all smiles, just days previously. Little did I realize that days later both of my kids would be in a mental health facility. Nolan had learned of the rumor, they were dividing property, and all the enemy's lies/abuse/hurts came to a head. A month later, we were all left in amazement. Nolan learned that he was in fact Zeke's full brother. Truth was revealed and an awareness that counseling for both boys was of course still needed (after they moved back to their dads, they stopped attending). They have now both been in counseling this spring, and I was able to at least develop an understanding as to why my oldest son has had trust issues his entire teenage life. I immediately seeking God, heartbroken, feeling helpless, and then remembering that I had selected Peace as my theme for 2024. Funny how God always uses items like a "word" to really teach us deep spiritual truths. I immediately searched and found support from my amazing husband, counselor, pastor, and church family.
My pastor had given me a book earlier in the year to read, Journey of the Soul. It is a practical guide to growth, looking at the connections of not only spiritual growth but also emotional growth, using stages. These stages are not linear in nature. I have found the books so very helpful for my own healing journey. After a deep dive into the readings, I realized I had been hitting The Wall stage ever since I arrived in Alpine and remarried. I had made great gains on my spiritual and emotional journey, realizing that I was just completely exhausted. In the last 3 years, we have really worked on boundaries, saying no, and this year removing myself from many committees at church/work/etc. I think my response to this stressful spring incident with my sons, really finally pushed me through the Wall. In fact, I remember feeling exhausted emotionally, longing for peace, and wishing for healing for the boys. Yes, I was disappointed once again, angry that a lie did so much internal and spiritual damage to my family. Realizing that alone, I was helpless. Reminded again that God is in control.
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